Monday, January 21, 2008

Curing Communication Trepidation


RT Staff Note:
The following article is from Carmen Bucci, President of The Complete Athlete. Carmen will be contributing an article to Rounding Third every Monday throughout the rest of January. Carmen teaches high school athletes how to communicate better with their current coaches, college coaches and/or professional scouts. Since our theme for the past several weeks has been about communication, we welcome Carmen as a RT contributor.


By Carmen Bucci, The Complete Athlete
WARNING! What you are about to read is an actual conversation between a parent and their student-athlete.

Parent – “How was your day?”
Student-Athlete – “Fine.”
P – “How was the game?”
S-A – “Good.”
P – “What’s new at school?”
S-A – “Nothing.”

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. College coaches and scouts hear the same thing, day after day, while talking to potential recruits / draft picks. As frustrated as you may feel trying to communicate with your teenager, imagine what a coach or scout thinks when he has 10 or 15 minutes to get to know your son, either over the phone or in person. These valuable minutes could have an enormous impact on whether or not you’ll be recruited, or the round in which you’ll be drafted.

We’ve all heard the saying, “You only get one chance to make a first impression.” As you’re reading this, ask yourself the question “Is my son prepared to communicate with a coach or scout, and make a great first impression?” I hope so. There’s a lot riding on how they are perceived by that college coach or professional scout. You have to remember that PERCEPTION IS REALITY.

When you take into account the money involved in recruiting / scouting, the jobs that are on the line, and the reputations at stake, it’s vital for college coaches or major league baseball teams to get to know as much as possible about a student-athlete before they make any type of offer. We’re talking about the physical skills, mental make up, leadership qualities, and character. Along with the proper physical conditioning, effective communication training is imperative for success in sports and life.

Why are so many of you confident in your son’s abilities on the baseball field, and not so confident in their communication skills? Because they develop their skills through practicing and playing. How many times does your son get together with his buddies and have a pick-up game in Public Speaking? Never. But, not working on your communication skills means you’re leaving out an essential part of becoming the complete athlete.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Are you willing to communicate who is the owner of this blog - what organization are you part of?

RT Staff said...

Are you unhappy with our site? Is it that important or will it change anything if you know who we are?
RT Staff

sgvbaseball.com said...

I had the pleasure of meeting Carmen while coaching one of the teams at the PG National Showcase in Ohio last June. He ran a session for each team. It was outstanding what he was able teach each player. We are trying to set something up in the future to have him address our program.

sandlotr said...

just starting on this site, great info, no problem for not knowing since they share with all kids for their benefit, but mr. sgvbaseball u charge for trying out now $20, and have info that many would love to know, i bet u started out doing travelball for the love of the game and to give something back to the kids, why not share some insights with those kids that tryout, are really good, but are not connected in the right ways or just are not quite there yet??? this is not negative just an observation as you do run a fine fine program for those fortunate few that are included.

sgvbaseball.com said...

Sandlotr,

We do charge for try outs to help fund the program. We are short on funds because we helped out a few of our players who needed assistance for travel and or needed some gear but were short on money. The $20 helps us out plus it put a value on the decision to try out. We are actually one of the least expensive programs anywhere. We are unpaid staff who do this for the love of the game as when we started 7 years ago. The best pay is when players call us to tell us they made a college choice or watching someone you coached for 5 years pitch in the championship game of the CWS. We take time away from our families. Coaches plan their vacation time for events out of state. We have past Arsenal players in college helping coach. They give up weekends with the girls and friends to coach. Most people know they can call us anytime for advice or with questions. All our players know they can call anytime and they do. People see what we do on the field and that our players move one. They just don't know how until they join the program. We call, email and text our college contacts to talk about our players. We feel we provide a support system for our players. We talk with the HS coaches our players to make sure we are on the same page. My wife gets a little irked when my phone rings constantly. I do have a 3 and 5 year old at home (they are starting t ball this year) Coach Giles has a great website called teachDgame.com. He has received great feedback on it. He also put together a 40 page recruiting guide for our players. The colleges we sent them to for review loved it. We also have the ideas in the works to share information with players outside of our program but do not want to be too presumptious to believe too many people want to hear what we have to say. We have no problem sharing this info with anyone who asks. We know there are more high profile programs than ours and win this or that tournament. The thing we do know we are respected by colleges, scouts and our players which to us is most important.

I guess what I am saying we are here to share the info with anyone so please feel free to go to the website and call. I am always looking to learn something new too.

RT Staff said...

SGVBaseball,

Thanks for explaining the realities of a well run travel program. Readers, listen to the message SGV is saying...It's not always about winning...it's about exposing and development first and foremost. Many of the Top programs don't always win...but they get scouts to their games...and market their players...that's what it's all about...Sounds like a great topic for another article next week. Good job SGV...Keep the focus on developing and exposing your players...that's what travel ball is all about.
RT Staff

sandlotr said...

Thank you sgv for the very detailed response. Kudos to your program and the young men that donate their time. And its nice to see the kids that need help get support from the tryout money, truly. That is cool. Its great to see those kids get support rather than just the impact 6'3" 95 mph kid that can afford it. Also, I look forward to reading the 40 page info that might be available??

Is the website teachdgame or sgv's?

As you may get the feeling, I just am not sure the way this upper baseball is headed. I am really concerned that players that do not have the wherewithall may start to miss out on developing and getting better. really would hate to see it become elitist.

And again, we hear very positive comments about the Arsenal, and thanks for making the insider tips available on your websites.

regards,

sanlotr

sgvbaseball.com said...

We have our own website at sgvbaseball.com. Our coach's site is teachDgame.com

I do not think baseball will ever become an elitest sport. The information is out there. It just has to be found. I do believe parents think they can buy their way to success. I see so many more teams with paid coaches, choice fields and big fees for young teams. I have no problem with it but it does not mean success. Hard work does. When we have our try outs it doesn't matter what program they come from as long as they can play.

I had a conversation with a college coach who give me his insight on pay for play programs in the older ages. He said they are leery of an evaluation a coach from that program gives when it a pay for play program. He said the coach becomes an employee of the parent/player and has to show them some results to justify the money being spent.